Est 1986
Unpopular opinion: You should treat other people the way you want to be treated
I wish I could explain the importance of self-awareness to everybody, but it seems most people have a mental block for such a thing. Being aware that what you do and think and act on actually affects other people in your life doesn’t seem to be anything anybody is interested in.
I know this is news to most, but you can actually chose what to think.
Yes, I know! It’s outrageous! But it’s true! You can actively be a part of your own mind and choose which thoughts you want to feed and which thoughts you want to quench.
And if you are in a relationship and you choose to feed thoughts of people outside the relationship instead of putting in real work inside the relationship, then you don’t belong in that relationship and you should remove yourself from it. Or sooner or later, your spouse will resent you for being a dumbass, and they’ll remove themselves instead.
Good luck.